How much stress can you avoid? How many lists of your tasks can you delegate to others? Be realistic and know what is important to you. Get someone to help with gardening so you can focus on spending time with family, if that is important for you. If gardening feels like an important part of whom you are a person, then ask a relative or close friend to keep your children briefly, or better, involving children!Look at your list of tasks and decide what you can only do, and what can be done by others. Then ask for help. More often than not, people are too willing to provide assistance - it makes them feel needed and valued - if you will only ask them.